I hate resolutions. Can I say that? I did it.
I’m all about constant transformation and holidays that remind us we can reassess ourselves and be better people, but the whole writing down specific, measurable objectives thing kind of makes me want to puke. We are not business plans. We do not need to shackle ourselves to such stringent goals and results.
This doesn’t mean I don’t believe in accountability, because I sure do. It means I believe in a more free-flowing process of change that allows for surprises. Often times, we don’t get what we want, we get what we need. This is a universal truth. We can avoid being disappointed right up until that moment of clarity when we appreciate the outcome regardless of our expectation.
The answer is intentions. These suckers are bendy, unlike resolutions.
Resolution: I want to write a novel.
Intention: I want more creativity in my daily routine.
One path offers you a limited way to achieve your goal, the other offers you a plethora of avenues to create a feeling. Most of the time, the “goals” we want are not about the thing themselves, but the feeling behind it. If you trace back every “thing” you’ve ever wanted, at the root there is a desire being fulfilled. Hence, being satisfied in the end with getting what you need vs. what you wanted. Sometimes, it’s the desire to feel accomplished or better about yourself vs. getting that promotion, other times it’s about feeling inspired vs. getting a certain amount of creative work done.
So, this year, I’m not inviting you to slack off (if there is a concrete thing you really want, please go ahead and put it on your list, even if it is finite). I am, however, inviting you to analyze all the “things” you want and trace it back to that core feeling. And then once you’ve got them, plant those seeds and let the universe water them. Write them down and burn the paper. Let your intentions go to the hands of the universe and let her fulfill it. Surrender your hopes into the world. I guarantee you her plan is much more vibrant, interesting and sexy than most of the visions we have for ourselves.